The cheat-code to the ONENESS is inner Respect.

 

The cheat-code to the ONENESS is inner Respect. 

The cheat code is a key to freebie*.

*I am blue in thick spots all over  and proud of it. (Adam Lennard)

Self-esteem is comprehension that human being has a right for own thoughts, desires, needs, dreams, fears and  all the borders of personal space – self-dignity – has a right to BE HIMSELF*.

When we respect others’ rights  for  their  experience – our self- dignity automatically builds up.

I understand, that now you’re getting your experience and I don’t intend to interfere to correct or control your actions, feelings, decisions – because you HAVE A RIGHT TO GO THROUGH (live) YOUR EXPERIENCE IN YOUR INDIVIDUAL WAY (by your desires, fears, decisions and so on). If I try to impose you my desires, fears and decisions then I’ll deprive you of your experience and you’ll have to live it through again. I find no sense in interfering, if only you ask me  for help personally, but even then… I will try not to do for you what you can do, understand and conscious yourself… I will try to help you to realize and comprehend everything  not interfering into your actions.

When borders  of self-dignity are absent, the person defines it`s desires, fears, dreams and needs (defines  ITSELF*) by the way of other people saying “NO” to him.  He provokes “others” to determine their  borders of self-dignity, in this way helping  him to  define his desires and fears. When the person  experiences displeasure and irritation, offences and depressions by interaction with other people – he  understands –  I AM HERE! Now, I understand what I DO NOT WANT!

The Person:

But then I find a strong need to understand what I really  WANT. So, I again  needs to strike myself against other people’s Refusal. I think… what should I do? I should provoke them. It means show them disrespect to their borders of  self-dignity. Go and shit in the middle of the room or give someone offense and make  them to throw me out of their inner Space*. Why? Because  at the moment of falling to the ground  from their “ Magic kick” I understand.. – Thank youuuu!!! I have understood what I did NOT* Wa-a-a-ant.

And falling to the ground you ask yourself  again: So, what do I WANT ?

And here we go again!

And It may turn up that it isn`t  your true desire  because it may come out of pain.

So the starting point is  SELF-RESPECT – self-dignity and ability to understand that every human being has  its set of desires, fears and needs and different people go through one and the same situation differently – getting  their  own personal experience.

If there is no self-Respect,  the person  literally throw bricks at passersby  making  them to express  aggression upon him to help him to understand what desires and needs he has and who he is –  to define himself. 

If you are not able to understand who you are and what you are sitting  in your room completely alone – you have to provoke others – to define yourself in the process of falling to the ground from their  magic  kicks: What a strange  animal am I that I always need  to  kick against the pricks*?

I kick against the pricks* = thanks to others’ aggression, the person without self-respect can understand himself better.

 

Without self-respect the  sincerity and direct openness of person turn into rude, scorn and breaking others’  self-dignity borders as a natural process of understanding himself.

For such people comprehending is defined by agreement with them. If they are told “NO” – they could see  that the others didn`t  understand them. But to agree and  to understand are different things. You can understand the person, but also you can deny to do some things he tells you.    

*Inner Respect  and self- dignity which is defined without interaction of any determinative  element (others’ reactions to yourself or own taboos) – allow to define your true self.

Al_Neiro – helps  human to learn how to define itself being eye to eye with itself, not by the  outside  boundaries or inside taboos. 

 (Nataliia Severska (Allayae)

Typical Seeker - tries to cut off his hand to chop wood better.

Yesterday, when we were working with Leslav and detected a cool mechanism, that we called: Trying go out of the room by closing the door.
But how? Quite primitive – just try it!
It happens when a person resists his desires and needs. And  having  right instrument, he uses it in a contrary direction.  He considers  these actions  to help him to be happy – but it comes out with depression, aggression, dissatisfaction and lack of understanding.
So, one friend writes to me and states that he completely got stuck on his way to enlightenment.  He is laughing all the  time  and  understands it all, but oneness still doesn’t come. So, we made a simple analogy and here’s what we got by the end:
Me: When you want to exit the room (to reach enlightenment – oneness), but attempt to make it by closing the door – you use the right instrument in a wrong direction. Now go and try to get out of the room, closing the door. And think of Enlightenment, standing beyond this door.
He: I try. I didn’t succeed.
Me: Why?
He: There’s no space for me to exit, the passage  is getting too narrow.
Me: Why does it narrow?
He: I am closing  the door.
Me: Now find out, where do you “close the door” in your process. Draw an analogy : How do you try  to open the door of Enlightenment and determine what is Door* in this equation.
He: As far as I understand, it’s exactly the search of my Self that gets in the way. Expectation of something unusual.
Me:  What is  “The door”  ? Is it  the “search” or “something unusual”?
He: Expectation of clarity, openness and attempts to throw away everything that, I suppose, stands in the way of it.
Me: So closing the door – means throwing away everything that hampers, so the Door means something, that you think, stands in the way. What is it? Can you describe?
He: These are thoughts about myself… the feeling of myself… even more of a feeling than thoughts.
Me: so you try to close the door – by getting rid of yourself?
He: yeah, I am trying to rid from the feeling of individual me.
Me: So, you, as an average Seeker, try to annihilate yourself, to become your Self* - in this way  you are  closing  the door.
He: hmm… but the sense of myself is perceived  as a source of the problem. And automatically there’s a burning desire to get rid of it. Hehe… *scratches head*
Me: yeah. Typical Seeker – tries to cut off his hand to chop wood better. It’s as if you said: I need to destroy myself  to  become COMPLETE. Where’s the logic?
He: Logic is screwed up… *laugh*
 (Nataliia Severska (Allayae)

Unconditional happiness or it is so difficult to be the moron one!

I tried to make my boyfriend laugh and  to show him  that the feeling  of happiness is unconditional.  To be honest, it is unconditional for a human  to choose whether to be  happy or to stay in misery. You  just choose it.

We were on bus and I sensed so many reasons to be  unhappy  in energy channels of  other people there.

  To be honest, it is unconditional for a human  to choose whether to be  happy or to stay in misery. You  just choose it.

You become happy exactly in a  moment when you choose to be happy. You become unhappy exactly in a  moment when you choose to be miserable.

People without legs, hands or both are still able to be happy and joyful.

So many people with hands, legs and  without brain problems  CHOOSE to be  unhappy and  miserable  because  perceive big or small things  in their  life as a problems  and reasons  not to be happy yet.

I am telling you, you can still be happy even losing your daddy  or mammy, living without money, legs or hands. You just need to CHOOSE to be happy whatever happened!

If you have no money or food, no place to live, no clothes to put on  you can still CHOOSE to be Happy! You just need to CHOOSE to be happy whatever happened!

The death of parents take away their  love, attention and support, but it doesn`t take away your freedom to CHOOSE being Happy, not suffering.

If you  have no leg, hand or both it can be the reason for giving up walking, painting or what you  used to do. Bu t it doesn`t take away your freedom to CHOOSE being Happy, not suffering.

Only one situation can  take away you  freedom to CHOOSE being Happy. When you are dead.

Sometimes  we  understand  it too late.

 (Nataliia Severska (Allayae)

Love yourself the full heart within and Create !!!!

 

Why do we often leave attempts  to create something? Because while you are at the focus of perception “right” \ “wrong”,  you will be afraid of making mistakes. Creating something  you should not try to fix the world or enlighten people about what you think is right from your experience of life.

Just create your own custom things  for the universe. Imagine  for a minute, there  are you and the strong, beautiful and great Universe. The universe fulfill every moment with magic. Everything is perfect.  If you  are in focus “right” \ “wrong”, so what will you create in  the  perfect to every bit Universe? But, certainly you can try! *laughing*

Create what you want to for the beauty of the Universe and  all Being. Draw pictures to convey the depth of your Love, Kindness and Courage.  Write books and articles to share the depth of Love, but not the fear, the  depth of Courage, but not  despair, the depth of Oneness, but not separation on “right” \ “wrong”.  Create another one flower and tree. Not because you want to show  others how good you are as a person. Not because you want to tell something important all the peoples on planet. But just  cause  you  want to give another beautiful particle of creation to the Universe. For the Universe to play with  your creation as a child and to enjoy it.

You often say that  the boss or manager  bounds you to feel yourself  perfect whatever  you do. How can it be?  Who bounds to love you?  Who  bounds to  fulfill your  expectations?  And who bounds you to fulfill other people expectations?

 Love…. Loving yourself will teach you how to  perceive  things  like  colorful and bright mountains and  fields,  where you used to see  mistakes and darkness and   how to accept your own mistakes as experience o f soul.  Loving and accepting yourself   you will be able to see  how  other  people percept their  inner  parts as  some dark and evil.  But,  now you  know that these inner parts of others are as  shining, beautiful and great as  yours inner parts.  You can  recognize these inner parts of others as divine,  thanks to power of loving yourself.

Just  learn to love yourself  at any state. Love yourself whatever you are.  Learn to love yourself  living or dying,  making mistakes or  getting victory. Love yourself even when you fulfill others expectations  or not.

Your inner child is waiting, when you be able to see your divinity. Because then you  will perceive everything as THE ONE, the Source. You  will be able to see and , much more important, to feel  the motion of  unconditional love from one atom to another. The Love which is these atoms within!  

Let  the desire to  fix ( correct)  go. Let the   desire to give something important  go.  Accept yourself and  learn to understand any of your inner parts that  appears.  Look at yourself and Love yourself  the  full heart within.  Create another one  flower and tree … another one  car or house.. Create the toys for the Universe . Create  your unique creations for us all  to play and enjoy it . (Nataliia Severska (Allayae)