The cheat-code to the ONENESS is inner Respect.

 

The cheat-code to the ONENESS is inner Respect. 

The cheat code is a key to freebie*.

*I am blue in thick spots all over  and proud of it. (Adam Lennard)

Self-esteem is comprehension that human being has a right for own thoughts, desires, needs, dreams, fears and  all the borders of personal space – self-dignity – has a right to BE HIMSELF*.

When we respect others’ rights  for  their  experience – our self- dignity automatically builds up.

I understand, that now you’re getting your experience and I don’t intend to interfere to correct or control your actions, feelings, decisions – because you HAVE A RIGHT TO GO THROUGH (live) YOUR EXPERIENCE IN YOUR INDIVIDUAL WAY (by your desires, fears, decisions and so on). If I try to impose you my desires, fears and decisions then I’ll deprive you of your experience and you’ll have to live it through again. I find no sense in interfering, if only you ask me  for help personally, but even then… I will try not to do for you what you can do, understand and conscious yourself… I will try to help you to realize and comprehend everything  not interfering into your actions.

When borders  of self-dignity are absent, the person defines it`s desires, fears, dreams and needs (defines  ITSELF*) by the way of other people saying “NO” to him.  He provokes “others” to determine their  borders of self-dignity, in this way helping  him to  define his desires and fears. When the person  experiences displeasure and irritation, offences and depressions by interaction with other people – he  understands –  I AM HERE! Now, I understand what I DO NOT WANT!

The Person:

But then I find a strong need to understand what I really  WANT. So, I again  needs to strike myself against other people’s Refusal. I think… what should I do? I should provoke them. It means show them disrespect to their borders of  self-dignity. Go and shit in the middle of the room or give someone offense and make  them to throw me out of their inner Space*. Why? Because  at the moment of falling to the ground  from their “ Magic kick” I understand.. – Thank youuuu!!! I have understood what I did NOT* Wa-a-a-ant.

And falling to the ground you ask yourself  again: So, what do I WANT ?

And here we go again!

And It may turn up that it isn`t  your true desire  because it may come out of pain.

So the starting point is  SELF-RESPECT – self-dignity and ability to understand that every human being has  its set of desires, fears and needs and different people go through one and the same situation differently – getting  their  own personal experience.

If there is no self-Respect,  the person  literally throw bricks at passersby  making  them to express  aggression upon him to help him to understand what desires and needs he has and who he is –  to define himself. 

If you are not able to understand who you are and what you are sitting  in your room completely alone – you have to provoke others – to define yourself in the process of falling to the ground from their  magic  kicks: What a strange  animal am I that I always need  to  kick against the pricks*?

I kick against the pricks* = thanks to others’ aggression, the person without self-respect can understand himself better.

 

Without self-respect the  sincerity and direct openness of person turn into rude, scorn and breaking others’  self-dignity borders as a natural process of understanding himself.

For such people comprehending is defined by agreement with them. If they are told “NO” – they could see  that the others didn`t  understand them. But to agree and  to understand are different things. You can understand the person, but also you can deny to do some things he tells you.    

*Inner Respect  and self- dignity which is defined without interaction of any determinative  element (others’ reactions to yourself or own taboos) – allow to define your true self.

Al_Neiro – helps  human to learn how to define itself being eye to eye with itself, not by the  outside  boundaries or inside taboos. 

 (Nataliia Severska (Allayae)

Typical Seeker - tries to cut off his hand to chop wood better.

Yesterday, when we were working with Leslav and detected a cool mechanism, that we called: Trying go out of the room by closing the door.
But how? Quite primitive – just try it!
It happens when a person resists his desires and needs. And  having  right instrument, he uses it in a contrary direction.  He considers  these actions  to help him to be happy – but it comes out with depression, aggression, dissatisfaction and lack of understanding.
So, one friend writes to me and states that he completely got stuck on his way to enlightenment.  He is laughing all the  time  and  understands it all, but oneness still doesn’t come. So, we made a simple analogy and here’s what we got by the end:
Me: When you want to exit the room (to reach enlightenment – oneness), but attempt to make it by closing the door – you use the right instrument in a wrong direction. Now go and try to get out of the room, closing the door. And think of Enlightenment, standing beyond this door.
He: I try. I didn’t succeed.
Me: Why?
He: There’s no space for me to exit, the passage  is getting too narrow.
Me: Why does it narrow?
He: I am closing  the door.
Me: Now find out, where do you “close the door” in your process. Draw an analogy : How do you try  to open the door of Enlightenment and determine what is Door* in this equation.
He: As far as I understand, it’s exactly the search of my Self that gets in the way. Expectation of something unusual.
Me:  What is  “The door”  ? Is it  the “search” or “something unusual”?
He: Expectation of clarity, openness and attempts to throw away everything that, I suppose, stands in the way of it.
Me: So closing the door – means throwing away everything that hampers, so the Door means something, that you think, stands in the way. What is it? Can you describe?
He: These are thoughts about myself… the feeling of myself… even more of a feeling than thoughts.
Me: so you try to close the door – by getting rid of yourself?
He: yeah, I am trying to rid from the feeling of individual me.
Me: So, you, as an average Seeker, try to annihilate yourself, to become your Self* - in this way  you are  closing  the door.
He: hmm… but the sense of myself is perceived  as a source of the problem. And automatically there’s a burning desire to get rid of it. Hehe… *scratches head*
Me: yeah. Typical Seeker – tries to cut off his hand to chop wood better. It’s as if you said: I need to destroy myself  to  become COMPLETE. Where’s the logic?
He: Logic is screwed up… *laugh*
 (Nataliia Severska (Allayae)

Unconditional happiness or it is so difficult to be the moron one!

I tried to make my boyfriend laugh and  to show him  that the feeling  of happiness is unconditional.  To be honest, it is unconditional for a human  to choose whether to be  happy or to stay in misery. You  just choose it.

We were on bus and I sensed so many reasons to be  unhappy  in energy channels of  other people there.

  To be honest, it is unconditional for a human  to choose whether to be  happy or to stay in misery. You  just choose it.

You become happy exactly in a  moment when you choose to be happy. You become unhappy exactly in a  moment when you choose to be miserable.

People without legs, hands or both are still able to be happy and joyful.

So many people with hands, legs and  without brain problems  CHOOSE to be  unhappy and  miserable  because  perceive big or small things  in their  life as a problems  and reasons  not to be happy yet.

I am telling you, you can still be happy even losing your daddy  or mammy, living without money, legs or hands. You just need to CHOOSE to be happy whatever happened!

If you have no money or food, no place to live, no clothes to put on  you can still CHOOSE to be Happy! You just need to CHOOSE to be happy whatever happened!

The death of parents take away their  love, attention and support, but it doesn`t take away your freedom to CHOOSE being Happy, not suffering.

If you  have no leg, hand or both it can be the reason for giving up walking, painting or what you  used to do. Bu t it doesn`t take away your freedom to CHOOSE being Happy, not suffering.

Only one situation can  take away you  freedom to CHOOSE being Happy. When you are dead.

Sometimes  we  understand  it too late.

 (Nataliia Severska (Allayae)

Love yourself the full heart within and Create !!!!

 

Why do we often leave attempts  to create something? Because while you are at the focus of perception “right” \ “wrong”,  you will be afraid of making mistakes. Creating something  you should not try to fix the world or enlighten people about what you think is right from your experience of life.

Just create your own custom things  for the universe. Imagine  for a minute, there  are you and the strong, beautiful and great Universe. The universe fulfill every moment with magic. Everything is perfect.  If you  are in focus “right” \ “wrong”, so what will you create in  the  perfect to every bit Universe? But, certainly you can try! *laughing*

Create what you want to for the beauty of the Universe and  all Being. Draw pictures to convey the depth of your Love, Kindness and Courage.  Write books and articles to share the depth of Love, but not the fear, the  depth of Courage, but not  despair, the depth of Oneness, but not separation on “right” \ “wrong”.  Create another one flower and tree. Not because you want to show  others how good you are as a person. Not because you want to tell something important all the peoples on planet. But just  cause  you  want to give another beautiful particle of creation to the Universe. For the Universe to play with  your creation as a child and to enjoy it.

You often say that  the boss or manager  bounds you to feel yourself  perfect whatever  you do. How can it be?  Who bounds to love you?  Who  bounds to  fulfill your  expectations?  And who bounds you to fulfill other people expectations?

 Love…. Loving yourself will teach you how to  perceive  things  like  colorful and bright mountains and  fields,  where you used to see  mistakes and darkness and   how to accept your own mistakes as experience o f soul.  Loving and accepting yourself   you will be able to see  how  other  people percept their  inner  parts as  some dark and evil.  But,  now you  know that these inner parts of others are as  shining, beautiful and great as  yours inner parts.  You can  recognize these inner parts of others as divine,  thanks to power of loving yourself.

Just  learn to love yourself  at any state. Love yourself whatever you are.  Learn to love yourself  living or dying,  making mistakes or  getting victory. Love yourself even when you fulfill others expectations  or not.

Your inner child is waiting, when you be able to see your divinity. Because then you  will perceive everything as THE ONE, the Source. You  will be able to see and , much more important, to feel  the motion of  unconditional love from one atom to another. The Love which is these atoms within!  

Let  the desire to  fix ( correct)  go. Let the   desire to give something important  go.  Accept yourself and  learn to understand any of your inner parts that  appears.  Look at yourself and Love yourself  the  full heart within.  Create another one  flower and tree … another one  car or house.. Create the toys for the Universe . Create  your unique creations for us all  to play and enjoy it . (Nataliia Severska (Allayae)

It is YOU… you only… who make a choice to betray your Eternal nature.

Nobody can forbid you to be yourself!
To be the   Source ( of EVERyTHING)!
It is YOU… you only…  who make a choice to betray your Eternal nature.

Everybody knows : the top point of selfishness is to start admiring yourself. How did we get to know about it? We were taught that Narcissus was looking at himself in the reflection of a mirror and…went crazy…hung  himself…killed all the children on the Earth…didn`t he? Oh-h my gosh!  No! He started to love himself!!!
So we remember now that to love yourself is equal to go and shoot yourself, kill your Mum or rape your own child. When we are praised we just try to brush it away. It` s kind of saying – well, it`s OK, nothing special. It literally  became to  sound  as a crime It`s normal when the others praise you but if you start praising yourself, admiring your body, your job, your personality and yourself in general…Admiring yourself as a GOD – the Source of everything…
Thanks to such a trick, now we hardly understand that we are capable  to love another person as well as we can love, respect and understand ourselves. And we can admire another person as much as we admire ourselves…so what about you? How much do you admire yourself?  Your body?
What is divinity? It is when you enjoy admiring  YOURSELF AS A GOD !
Let`s make it clear… Not the God who  is like a  mythical creature, a kind of a ruler whom you have to make sacrifices and ask for  mercy. That God  who  is  the  Source of Everything  that  exists with   Nature of Tenderness and Bliss  as well as Eternity. The  living  principle  of  existence, which  all of us are absolutely  the same in our nature.
We often refuse to choose our own DIVINITY. It turns up , there is no person or any other creature close to us who can share our Glory with us. As we can`t find a like-minded person, we just hide our Glory  inside, waiting for the moment to meet that very creature who is able to share THAT thing  which  is hidden deep inside us. We hid it when we refused to show, to reveal and – the most important – to be proud of  who WE truly ARE!
But the fact is, there is no such a moment or reason to stop being proud of yourself or revealing your Glory.  To Be the Source, the Eternity – just to be the power of Being YOURSELF  in  any situation, especially when there is nobody close to you who can share your Feelings, your Freedom and your Dance!
Try to say your Mum or your Granny :  I AM GOD! They will hush and scold you. They simply take it as a joke.  More advanced people   use the flexible form of denial : ALL OF US ARE GODS. I KNOW.
But to know and to feel it physically are too different things. You can either use Your Being GOD or you just live and suffer knowing that We Are All GODs. Suffering GODs for whom it is enough just to KNOW theoretically, from books, who they truly  are. They agreed with this information for the sake of living not so painfully.
And if you answer your Mum`s question or at school: - What do you want to be? – I want to Be a GOD!
Soon an ambulance will come and take you at least for your mental examination. God is a creature who can use the tools of  his  own body and manipulate the reality. And if you treat God as a mythical angry creature who looks like a man without dignity and respect – so naturally the desire to become a god will be automatically treated as a desire to become Hitler, Stalin and all the Tyrants in the world.

Not to betray yourself means to be aware of your  true needs, satisfy them and not to refuse them even for the sake of anybody else`s happyness (Leslav Sangiarovsky).
It may happen that no creatures  who look like your body will be close to you and nobody can understand and share your glory. But there is always the Planet, the Universe and the  Elements, Life and Peace, Space and every atom of Your BODY!!!!!
Only you refuse to be proud of yourself and manifest yourself. Only you choose…. WHAT YOU WANT TO BE!
How to be aware of your true needs, especially if the perception of them is connected with the   aggression of close people. The fact is that personal dignity as well as Awareness and respect ( self esteem) may provoke waves of aggression from those creatures who betrayed and go on betraying themselves as Eternity , ignoring their bodies, true needs and their Heart.
Just start being responsible for your  happiness and REMEMBER what it means -  to be proud and dance so that the hearts of other creatures around you could  be able to awake and see their own Glory.
The way to the Oneness is too easy.  Feel the Tenderness within  your body, deepening your experience up to feeling  of Bliss . Then make your feelings even deeper producing the Bliss of your tenderness up to the strong physical orgasm. And even deeper…deeper into yourself…
It`s too easy.  But it comes out  to be extremely difficult for those who are waiting for a magic pill or a Santa Claus  in a chopper in the middle of the summer.  That`s because you have to love yourself. And as I`ve mentioned already – it`s equal to killing your own child. And here we come across a particular trick: we`re LAZY and can see NO SENSE  in producing Tenderness  to our bodies. So, what else can we talk about?
You can find the way to the Oneness in feeling Tenderness – Bliss and Orgasm in your body.
Well, just remember about   descriptions of ecstatic conditions of the saints in different religions. Everyone of us is awaiting for somebody   who is not afraid of Being proud to be a GOD….  Awaiting  that he will come close to us and  start Dancing. We admire them, envy or hate  - but never even move to try, how it feels to be a GOD. Only you choose…what  you`ll BE!!!
You know, to say that you`re a bird and to be able to fly like a bird are two different conditions of the  body!!
The Universe is the pure principle of the Source . Does the Universe  harm  this world   by its existence? “the God” is a neuronal chain in the central nervous system of your body due to which all the processes are carried out  precisely according to the statement “I AM THE SOURSE OF THE EXISTENCE ” = I AM GOD.
When you become what you are you aren`t  able to do harm anyway. Your any state whether you are aggressive, joyful, tender or even if you kill somebody bring in itself powerful shine of the Sourse which means Harmony,  Blessedness, Unity or Eternity.
When you become what you Truly* are, you  aren`t  able to do harm anyway.  Any of your  state, whether you are aggressive, joyful, tender or even if you kill somebody, is  bring in itself powerful shine of the Source which means Harmony,  Bliss, Unity and  Eternity.
Naturally, you live beyond the sphere of personal happiness  and the others – those who live with Personal wishes – will feel aggressive and show it to you. But…it won`t have the same sense which was when you associated yourself with personality of Tom, Bill, Ann, etc…
Remember that it WAS YOU who forbade yourself to be proud of your  Eternal  Nature of the ONE*. You came here to DANCE, admiring and awakening the hearts of  other Dreaming and Suffering Gods with your Power to Be FREE in your true nature…Dancing in your Nature of the Eternal Oneness.
When you constantly keep up the centre of the Unite and Eternal Creature you become a pure Mirror and  other creatures  align balancing within  because they can see themselves entire in you deeply. And I`m speaking not of your silent presence  (though it   works greatly ) I want to tell that when you are conscious,  respect yourself, feel  Dignity as well as Pride with your body, Enjoy Divinity all the manipulations…in fact, manipulations are the only thing that people are scared of…they learn how to use manipulations to respond to manipulations…so, when you are, who you Truly* are even among human passions, people around you align balancing within  and they can see  both their pain and harmony at the same time!
How not to betray yourself?
To be as you are, to choose the  Source of Oneness  in sex even if nobody can understand you, even if you cannot have sex on the level that you need to! Because you will ALWAYS  attract  such kind of partner  what you are at this  moment, what  level of Oneness you are radiating…choose to radiate every moment.
To Be who  you Truly* are, to Be  the Source, to Be GOD even if nobody needs you and you are deprived of food and shelter!!!!!!!!
P.S:   If you understand  that you betray yourself, turn to yourself with Tenderness and Gratitude for this lesson and find out “WHY?”, and after that learn to be yourself ( To Be who  you Truly* are) in any case.
(Nataliia Severska (Allayae)

“I could be better”

 (picture* "to be in Jail" is the state of the  soul)
“I could be better”  - is the mechanism of not accepting   yourself. It`s built on how you  appreciate  youself concerning  people  around you. And  they will  always  be not satisfied with you until they see  reflections  of their pain, fears and aggression in you as  in  a mirror.
When we do not  fulfill  other people's expectations  they  become dissatisfied with us. For some reason  we do not believe  ourselves  but their  opinion  becomes more important for us. And we  start to think like “I could be better”. I could get more attention from the outside. I could go even further away from himself. I could do anything  for  others  ... I want them to be pleased with  me.... because I already do not care for myself at all...  I gave up... I betrayed myself... betrayed for so long that I even forgot. And now the only authority for me it is other people's perception of me.
When we put on the authority of someone else but yourself. We no longer trust ourselves and fall into the trap – “I cannot fulfill someone else's expectations.”

You can never  fulfill other people expectations ... the Others will ALWAYS  be dissatisfied with something .  As  the cause is within them. .. but not inside you!! When you cannot take a breath in and exhale for its own sake, .. just to be...  be yourself.... sitting on the beach... on the swing .. standing in the market among a crowd of passers-by ....then you become modeling clay in the hands of other people's reflections. You give yourself to reflections. You say:   I could be better  for them ... .. to make them feel better.
You ask yourself what should I do to fulfill their wishes? ... but YOU completely forget about yourself. If the sun forgets about itself .. it goes out. Because it's THE SUN .. IT IS ! If it would consider how the  best to shine for   creatures and planets... it will run on space  searching  of a better LOCATION.   One day the SUN will  say: “I could light  better!”  - and will  fall into depression!
But everything outside is  just a reflection of you from inside. It's You are the One who wants to feel better. So you are trying to "appease" the reflections .
And  you say:
- When everybody outside calm down  I will not see   reflections of my  pain in their claims to me. I'll be happy then ...
(Nataliia Severska (Allayae)